Spanking your child has sparked a great debate in recent years; there are many arguments for both sides.
Being raised in a household where spanking was practiced, I can honestly say that I do not believe that spanking a child does anything but instill fear, resentment and to a certain extent, violence.
Children make mistakes, it’s a part of the learning process, and spanking them for making a mistake makes no sense. Parents need to use common sense and take the opportunity to turn the mistake around and make it a learning experience.
Discuss the incident with your child; take the time to find out what their thought process was at the time they did it and take the time to explain to him or her the reasons why it was wrong.
According to parents.com, http://www.parenting.com/article/is-it-okay-to-spank 94% of toddlers between the ages of 3 and 4 have been spanked and 61% of parents believe it is ok to spank; I find that appalling. If an adult did something wrong, you wouldn’t hit them, you’d go to jail. Why should it be any different for children?
This debate has been surging for decades; experts denounce spanking while some religious leaders believe that spanking your child will save their souls. I disagree; spanking your child is not teaching them right from wrong. It is only showing them that you are a bully, picking on someone smaller than you and that is a behavior that your child will learn and pass on to smaller children. Is that something that you want for your child?
I am not saying that there should not be some kind of punishment, because there should be; however the punishment should fit the crime. Children have to know that there are consequences for their actions, good or bad.
After you have explained what he or she did was wrong and why it was wrong, impose an adequate punishment; take something away, ground him or her, standing in a corner or a timeout chair; whatever you think will work for your child.
The American Psychological Association http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/spanking.aspx has been stating for many years that spanking your child will damage him or her to some degree and that repetitive spanking can scar them for life.
I don’t know about anyone else, but I want my children to be will adjusted individuals and I want to give them every opportunity to succeed in life. I don’t want them scarred because they made a mistake and were physically punished for it. That is not want parents are supposed to do; you are there to nurture and guide them on their path in life.
I am not the only one that feels like this, in 2006, the United Nations Committee on the Rights of the Child stated that ‘physical discipline is a violation of children’s human rights’ they went on to say that ‘physical punishment is legalized violence against children’
Currently, 30 countries in the world have banned physical punishment of children, and in the US, there are some states that have banned it also.
So before you raise your hand to spank your child, take a good look into his or her eyes; what do you see? Most likely you will see fear. Is that how you want your child to remember his or her childhood? To see your angry face that probably will scare them as much as the spanking will hurt them? This is the age of technology, use the Internet to find different ways to discipline your child.